Measurements
I think it's safe to say that humans are hot-wired to be logical. That's just how our brain works. It constantly tries to make sense of every single input from our senses in order for us to comprehend what's going on around us, else we'd go crazy. We define everything we see, touch, smell, feel, hear, taste without us even needing to try. Our brain does it autonomously and we can do nothing about it.
So imagine now, if our world never came up with "Measurements". Everything around us, whether it's size, length, weight, space and TIME. What will happen to us? We would literally be living in oblivion. Even Science would never make sense if measurements didn't exist.
Inevitably, we even measure ourselves. Ironically, we never really measure ourselves, by ourselves. It's usually dependant on the measurements that are set by others, or the world. For example, what we look like, whether good or bad, we are subject to what "others" think. That's why we have people who have zero self-confidence in how they look, because the world tells them "YOU LOOK BAD!"
Another instance, our intelligence is measured by the amount of education we get, or exams in short. We take tests, exams, etc. and then be judged by a system that some other "more intelligent" human had come up with to see if we are as intelligent. You can argue about it, but in some way or another, we still use something to measure how smart one person is.
How about self-worth? How do most people measure it? Well, sadly, it's still measured by the standards of the people around us or the world we're in. Whether you're still pursuing your education, career, or even in your own family, your self-worth is constantly changing, adapting to how your environment makes you perceive who you are.
The stress of making ourselves feel worthy or feel useful is always there. We can never run from it, therefore we live with it. So we can say, each day of our lives, we are dependant on the people around us: i.e. what they say about us, what they say about others, what they think about you, what they think about others and also dependant on the things around us: i.e. what we are doing, what others are doing, what we have, what others have, etc.
Such are the things that affects our perception of our self-worth. In reality, most of these factors usually go against you. They never really helps us build our self-worth. There are bound to be people whom, all they do is, bring you down. There are things that all it does, or when you're doing it, makes you feel useless, or you'd feel useless when others are doing it.
Isn't such life tiring? That constant pressure of finding self-worth? But why are there people who are so full of confidence as well? Where in the world did they find so much worth in themselves that it seems like they are living in their own world of imagining they are great? There must be something that had caused them to measure themselves that way.
What is it?
The answer, very likely would be that they measure themselves, by themselves. They wouldn't allow other factors to measure them. Yes, it may seem stupid because, how in the world did they know they are better than others? But think about it, when you measure yourself, by yourselves, what do you use to measure? Very likely, everything around them. Now you may think, "See, we're back to square one. It's still about external measurements on us!"
But I would think, the main difference is: the mentality in believing that they can do better, and not being dictated by the external elements, telling them, there's your limit. They believe they look good enough if they just made some effort. They believe they can do well in the exam, if they try harder. They believe that they will just keep doing better if they keep doing it, regardless how long it took.
Most importantly, they won't let the fact that someone does something or has something better than them dictate their worth. They recognise that EVERYONE is good at something. There is always SOMETHING in anyone that they will do better than someone else. It's that acknowledgement that they know, they aren't so bad after all.
We just need to find that SOMETHING. How? Usually, that something you do well is something you are most frustrated about when someone seem to keep telling you to do it, because it's so boring that you can do it with one eye closed. Or, when someone has a very hard time doing it as easy as it seems to you.
All in all, it's about believing in yourself. Accepting who you are. If everyone pursues the same standards, perfections, and achieves it, what good is there? Nobody stands out any more. Uniqueness of an individual is lost. Imagine stepping out of your home, every one seems the same, every boy/girl is the same. It's like a mass production factory. You don't have to pick out each and every product to test, you just need a random sample, whatever the results, it will reflect all the other products that were produced together.
So start believing and accepting yourself first. Measure yourself that way. That's how you should also do to others. Let them measure themselves. Don't mess it up by judging them. Yes, people are flawed, so are you and I. But each flaw is what makes someone unique as they are. It characterises them, gives them an identity. We are supposed to be built around not just our strengths but our flaws too.
Are you measuring correctly yet?
So imagine now, if our world never came up with "Measurements". Everything around us, whether it's size, length, weight, space and TIME. What will happen to us? We would literally be living in oblivion. Even Science would never make sense if measurements didn't exist.
Inevitably, we even measure ourselves. Ironically, we never really measure ourselves, by ourselves. It's usually dependant on the measurements that are set by others, or the world. For example, what we look like, whether good or bad, we are subject to what "others" think. That's why we have people who have zero self-confidence in how they look, because the world tells them "YOU LOOK BAD!"
Another instance, our intelligence is measured by the amount of education we get, or exams in short. We take tests, exams, etc. and then be judged by a system that some other "more intelligent" human had come up with to see if we are as intelligent. You can argue about it, but in some way or another, we still use something to measure how smart one person is.
How about self-worth? How do most people measure it? Well, sadly, it's still measured by the standards of the people around us or the world we're in. Whether you're still pursuing your education, career, or even in your own family, your self-worth is constantly changing, adapting to how your environment makes you perceive who you are.
The stress of making ourselves feel worthy or feel useful is always there. We can never run from it, therefore we live with it. So we can say, each day of our lives, we are dependant on the people around us: i.e. what they say about us, what they say about others, what they think about you, what they think about others and also dependant on the things around us: i.e. what we are doing, what others are doing, what we have, what others have, etc.
Such are the things that affects our perception of our self-worth. In reality, most of these factors usually go against you. They never really helps us build our self-worth. There are bound to be people whom, all they do is, bring you down. There are things that all it does, or when you're doing it, makes you feel useless, or you'd feel useless when others are doing it.
Isn't such life tiring? That constant pressure of finding self-worth? But why are there people who are so full of confidence as well? Where in the world did they find so much worth in themselves that it seems like they are living in their own world of imagining they are great? There must be something that had caused them to measure themselves that way.
What is it?
The answer, very likely would be that they measure themselves, by themselves. They wouldn't allow other factors to measure them. Yes, it may seem stupid because, how in the world did they know they are better than others? But think about it, when you measure yourself, by yourselves, what do you use to measure? Very likely, everything around them. Now you may think, "See, we're back to square one. It's still about external measurements on us!"
But I would think, the main difference is: the mentality in believing that they can do better, and not being dictated by the external elements, telling them, there's your limit. They believe they look good enough if they just made some effort. They believe they can do well in the exam, if they try harder. They believe that they will just keep doing better if they keep doing it, regardless how long it took.
Most importantly, they won't let the fact that someone does something or has something better than them dictate their worth. They recognise that EVERYONE is good at something. There is always SOMETHING in anyone that they will do better than someone else. It's that acknowledgement that they know, they aren't so bad after all.
We just need to find that SOMETHING. How? Usually, that something you do well is something you are most frustrated about when someone seem to keep telling you to do it, because it's so boring that you can do it with one eye closed. Or, when someone has a very hard time doing it as easy as it seems to you.
All in all, it's about believing in yourself. Accepting who you are. If everyone pursues the same standards, perfections, and achieves it, what good is there? Nobody stands out any more. Uniqueness of an individual is lost. Imagine stepping out of your home, every one seems the same, every boy/girl is the same. It's like a mass production factory. You don't have to pick out each and every product to test, you just need a random sample, whatever the results, it will reflect all the other products that were produced together.
So start believing and accepting yourself first. Measure yourself that way. That's how you should also do to others. Let them measure themselves. Don't mess it up by judging them. Yes, people are flawed, so are you and I. But each flaw is what makes someone unique as they are. It characterises them, gives them an identity. We are supposed to be built around not just our strengths but our flaws too.
Are you measuring correctly yet?
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